Focus on Solutions Rather Than Blame

All the world is full of suffering.
It is also full of overcoming.
- Helen Keller

When you are offended at any man's fault,
turn to yourself and study your own failings.
Then you will forget your anger.
- Epictetus

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out;
it's the grain of sand in your shoe.
- Robert W. Service

Ninety-nine percent of the failures
come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
- George Washington Carver

Where there is no accusation of "fault,"
there can be no anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
- Japanese Proverb

Sometimes "bad" things just happen. Try to avoid lashing out at whoever is handiest - your spouse, your family, your friend, the government, God.

Direct your attention to finding a way forward,
rather than on assigning blame.
 - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: How to Deal with Anger

Revenge is Never the Answer

When You Have Been Wronged
      

Understand Your Darknesses

 

Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
- Carl Jung

Fear grows in darkness;
if you think there's a bogeyman around,
turn on the light.
- Dorothy Thompson

Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.
- Lao Tzu

Knowing your own darkness is the best method
for dealing with the darknesses of other people.
- Carl Jung

Further reading: Categorizing People

Prejudice

Driving Out Darkness
     

Find a Way Forward

All the world is full of suffering.
It is also full of overcoming.
- Helen Keller

When you are offended at any man's fault,
turn to yourself and study your own failings.
Then you will forget your anger.
- Epictetus

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out;
it's the grain of sand in your shoe.
- Robert W. Service

Ninety-nine percent of the failures
come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
- George Washington Carver

Where there is no accusation of "fault,"
there can be no anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
- Japanese Proverb

Sometimes "bad" things just happen. Try to avoid lashing out at whoever is handiest - your spouse, your family, your friend, the government, God.

Direct your attention to finding a way forward,
rather than on assigning blame.
 - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: How to Deal with Anger

Revenge is Never the Answer

When You Have Been Wronged
      

Our Darknesses

 

Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
- Carl Jung

Fear grows in darkness;
if you think there's a bogeyman around,
turn on the light.
- Dorothy Thompson

Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.
- Lao Tzu

Knowing your own darkness is the best method
for dealing with the darknesses of other people.
- Carl Jung

Further reading: Categorizing People

Prejudice

Driving Out Darkness
     

Resist the Temptation to Judge Others

 

Judge not, that you be not judged.
For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged;
and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
- Matthew 7:1-2

If we were faultless we should not be so much annoyed
by the defects of those with whom we associate.
- Francois Fenelon

You are precisely as big as what you love and precisely
as small as what you allow to annoy you.
- Robert Anton Wilson

Today's affirmation:
I Resist the Temptation to Judge Others.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: The Essence of Jesus' Teaching

Love All, Judge None

The Price of Anger

Keep the Golden Rule
   

Focus on Overcoming

 

All the world is full of suffering.
It is also full of overcoming.
- Helen Keller

When you are offended at any man's fault,
turn to yourself and study your own failings.
Then you will forget your anger.
- Epictetus

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out;
it's the grain of sand in your shoe.
- Robert W. Service

Ninety-nine percent of the failures
come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
- George Washington Carver

Where there is no accusation of "fault,"
there can be no anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
- Japanese Proverb

Sometimes "bad" things just happen. Try to avoid lashing out at whoever is handiest - your spouse, your family, your friend, the government, God.

Direct your attention to finding a way forward,
rather than on assigning blame.
 - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: How to Deal with Anger

Revenge is Never the Answer

When You Have Been Wronged
      

Examine Your Own Darkness

 

Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
- Carl Jung

Fear grows in darkness;
if you think there's a bogeyman around,
turn on the light.
- Dorothy Thompson

Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.
- Lao Tzu

Knowing your own darkness is the best method
for dealing with the darknesses of other people.
- Carl Jung

Further reading: Categorizing People

Prejudice

Driving Out Darkness
     

Avoid Judging Others

Judge not, that you be not judged.
For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged;
and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
- Matthew 7:1-2

If we were faultless we should not be so much annoyed
by the defects of those with whom we associate.
- Francois Fenelon

You are precisely as big as what you love and precisely
as small as what you allow to annoy you.
- Robert Anton Wilson

Today's affirmation:
I Resist the Temptation to Judge Others.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: The Essence of Jesus' Teaching

Love All, Judge None

The Price of Anger

Keep the Golden Rule
   

Find a Way Forward

All the world is full of suffering.
It is also full of overcoming.
- Helen Keller

When you are offended at any man's fault,
turn to yourself and study your own failings.
Then you will forget your anger.
- Epictetus

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out;
it's the grain of sand in your shoe.
- Robert W. Service

Ninety-nine percent of the failures
come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
- George Washington Carver

Where there is no accusation of "fault,"
there can be no anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
- Japanese Proverb

Sometimes "bad" things just happen. Try to avoid lashing out at whoever is handiest - your spouse, your family, your friend, the government, God.

Direct your attention to finding a way forward,
rather than on assigning blame.
 - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: How to Deal with Anger

Revenge is Never the Answer

When You Have Been Wronged
      

Knowing Your Own Darkness

 

Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
- Carl Jung

Fear grows in darkness;
if you think there's a bogeyman around,
turn on the light.
- Dorothy Thompson

Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.
- Lao Tzu

Knowing your own darkness is the best method
for dealing with the darknesses of other people.
- Carl Jung


Further reading: Categorizing People

Prejudice

Driving Out Darkness
     

Today's affirmation: I Resist the Temptation to Judge Others.

 

Judge not, that you be not judged.
For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged;
and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
- Matthew 7:1-2

If we were faultless we should not be so much annoyed
by the defects of those with whom we associate.
- Francois Fenelon

You are precisely as big as what you love and precisely
as small as what you allow to annoy you.
- Robert Anton Wilson

Today's affirmation:
I Resist the Temptation to Judge Others.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: The Essence of Jesus' Teaching

Love All, Judge None

The Price of Anger

Keep the Golden Rule
   

Progress, Not Blame

 

All the world is full of suffering.
It is also full of overcoming.
- Helen Keller

When you are offended at any man's fault,
turn to yourself and study your own failings.
Then you will forget your anger.
- Epictetus

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out;
it's the grain of sand in your shoe.
- Robert W. Service

Ninety-nine percent of the failures
come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
- George Washington Carver

Where there is no accusation of "fault,"
there can be no anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
- Japanese Proverb

Sometimes "bad" things just happen. Try to avoid lashing out at whoever is handiest - your spouse, your family, your friend, the government, God.

Direct your attention to finding a way forward,
rather than on assigning blame.
 - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: How to Deal with Anger

Revenge is Never the Answer

When You Have Been Wronged
      

Judge Not

 

Judge not, that you be not judged.
For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged;
and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
- Matthew 7:1-2

If we were faultless we should not be so much annoyed
by the defects of those with whom we associate.
- Francois Fenelon

You are precisely as big as what you love and precisely
as small as what you allow to annoy you.
- Robert Anton Wilson

Today's affirmation
I Resist the Temptation to Judge Others.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: The Essence of Jesus' Teaching

Love All, Judge None

The Price of Anger

Keep the Golden Rule
   

Focus on Progress, Not on Blame

 

All the world is full of suffering.
It is also full of overcoming.
- Helen Keller

When you are offended at any man's fault,
turn to yourself and study your own failings.
Then you will forget your anger.
- Epictetus

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out;
it's the grain of sand in your shoe.
- Robert W. Service

Ninety-nine percent of the failures
come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
- George Washington Carver

Where there is no accusation of "fault,"
there can be no anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
- Japanese Proverb

Sometimes "bad" things just happen. Try to avoid lashing out at whoever is handiest - your spouse, your family, your friend, the government, God.

Direct your attention to finding a way forward,
rather than on assigning blame.
 - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: How to Deal with Anger

Revenge is Never the Answer

When You Have Been Wronged
      

Refrain from Judging Others

Judge not, that you be not judged.
For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged;
and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
- Matthew 7:1-2

If we were faultless we should not be so much annoyed
by the defects of those with whom we associate.
- Francois Fenelon

You are precisely as big as what you love and precisely
as small as what you allow to annoy you.
- Robert Anton Wilson

Today's affirmation
I Resist the Temptation to Judge Others.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: The Essence of Jesus' Teaching

Love All, Judge None

The Price of Anger

Keep the Golden Rule
   

Focus on Finding the Best Way Forward

All the world is full of suffering.
It is also full of overcoming.
- Helen Keller

When you are offended at any man's fault,
turn to yourself and study your own failings.
Then you will forget your anger.
- Epictetus

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out;
it's the grain of sand in your shoe.
- Robert W. Service

Ninety-nine percent of the failures
come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
- George Washington Carver

Where there is no accusation of "fault,"
there can be no anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
- Japanese Proverb

Sometimes "bad" things just happen. Try to avoid lashing out at whoever is handiest - your spouse, your family, your friend, the government, God.

Direct your attention to finding a way forward,
rather than on assigning blame.
 - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: How to Deal with Anger

Revenge is Never the Answer

When You Have Been Wronged
      

Life Happens, Don't Look For A Scapegoat

It happens - Sometimes.
- the movie Forrest Gump

Life, by its very nature, can never be certain or "safe."
What each of us *can* choose is whether to be a kind person or to be a selfish person.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
                  
The search for a scapegoat is the easiest of all hunting expeditions.
- Dwight D. Eisenhower

Never ascribe to malice that which is adequately explained by incompetence.
- Napoleon

When they are disappointed, most people react by assigning blame,
and finding someone to criticize.
What if we accepted that our disappointments
are seldom the result of malice on the part of anyone,
and worked together to make life better for all.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.
- John Lennon

Laws of nature do not make exceptions for nice people.
- Harold S. Kushner

When we are disappointed, we look for someone to blame.
Declaring someone to be at fault is the nature of anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

The man who can smile when things go wrong
has thought of someone else he can blame it on.
- Robert Bloch

It is a natural human instinct to assign blame to some person for everything that goes wrong in our lives.
Sometimes this is an attempt to deflect blame from our own behavior.
Often this is just an unwillingness to accept that tragic events can occur without any human being at fault.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading:  Don't Take Life as Personal Affront

Think Twice Whenever "Fault" Is Mentioned 

Blame is a Cop Out 

Criticism and Complaint 
        

Think Twice Whenever "Fault" Is Mentioned

When you are offended at any man's fault,
turn to yourself and study your own failings.
Then you will forget your anger.
- Epictetus

All the world is full of suffering.
It is also full of overcoming.
- Helen Keller

Ninety-nine percent of the failures
come from people who have the habit of making excuses.
- George Washington Carver

Fall seven times, stand up eight.
- Japanese Proverb

It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out;
it's the grain of sand in your shoe.
- Robert W. Service

Where there is no accusation of "fault,"
there can be no anger.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Sometimes "bad" things just happen. Try to avoid lashing out at whoever is handiest - your spouse, your family, your friend, the government, God.

Direct your attention to finding a way forward,
rather than to assigning blame.
 - Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: How to Deal with Anger

Revenge is Never the Answer

When You Have Been Wronged
      

Fear Grows in Darkness

Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
- Carl Jung

Fear grows in darkness;
if you think there's a bogeyman around,
turn on the light.
- Dorothy Thompson

Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.
- Lao Tzu

Knowing your own darkness is the best method
for dealing with the darknesses of other people.
- Carl Jung


Further reading: Categorizing People

Prejudice

Driving Out Darkness
     

Blame is a Cop Out

A man can fail many times,
but he isn't a failure until
he begins to blame somebody else.
- John Burroughs

No one "does it to you."
You do it to yourself through other people.
- Anonymous

When you blame others, you give up your power to change.
- Robert Anthony

Those who are dedicated to a life of wisdom
understand that the impulse to blame
something or someone is foolishness,
that there is nothing to be gained in blaming,
whether it be others or oneself.
- Epictetus

It is an act of great Courage to forsake all Blame.
Take responsibility for your whole life -
regardless of circumstances.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: No Fault Living

Criticism and Complaint

Judge Not


Why I Choose to Believe that Others are Never the Cause of My Unhappiness