Value your own opinion more, and others' opinions less.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
To free us from the expectations of others,
to give us back to ourselves -
there lies the great singular power of self-respect.
- Joan Didion
That you may retain your self-respect, it is better
to displease the people by doing what you know is right,
than to temporarily please them by doing what you know is wrong.
- William J. H. Boetcker
Celebration wears a lot of different outfits
but always wears the same old, beautiful dancing shoes.
- Mary Anne Radmacher
Everyone should carefully observe
which way his heart draws him,
and then choose that way with all his strength.
- Hasidic Proverb
To know what you prefer
instead of humbly saying Amen
to what the world tells you you ought to prefer,
is to have kept your soul alive.
- Robert Louis Stevenson
Resilience is about believing in yourself,
and trusting your own wisdom
rather than being swayed by the opinions of others.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Whatever anyone else says or does, their words and their actions are
truly about themselves. Don't take it personally when they rant, even if
they direct their unhappiness in your direction.
While I appreciate how unpleasant it is to have others making unreasonable
demands of you, it may help to remind yourself that it's not personal.
Others are often 100% focused on their own issues and their own
perceived needs. They project their frustration out into the mirror of
life. When they look into that mirror, they think they are seeing your
face, but in reality, they are seeing their own emotions.
Each of us is responsible for the consequences of our choices. When we choose
for others rather than for ourselves, we suffer. Make all your choices
from the longing of your own heart.
Gather all the facts.
Listen respectfully to others.
Be charitable to all.
And then make your own decisions.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Remember to love yourself and to take time for yourself.
Say NO to the demands of the world.
Say YES to the longings of your own heart.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
Further reading:
Make Your Own Choices
Your Intuition is Your Guide
At the Center of Your Being
Experts and Authorities
How to Be Yourself
Personal Boundaries
